Some westerners might have experienced nightlife in Thailand and have bad dating impressions about Thai bargirls. Even worse than that, (as it is common to focus on the negative side and disregard the positive side), people may generalize this concept of Thai women and regard all of them as promiscuous. But we must always be extra careful about such stereotypes about Thai women, as the proportion of women who work in these special kinds of bars or any other kind of jobs related to sex is low in comparison to the whole population of Thai females (and those women are on the lowest rung of the social ladder). The truth is that an average Thai woman is a person with a kind heart, morals and values.
However, if you are a westerner and you’re interested in dating a Thai woman, trying to win her heart might result in a lot of confusions and frustrations. But once you know her culture and heritage, you’ll be amazed of how a little understanding goes a long way.
Thai women are conservative regarding physical contact. The average Thai woman would not sleep with you on the first, second, third or even tenth date as it is believed that virginity is traditionally precious and important. So for guys: don’t try to make sexual advances with her until she finds you a true gentleman! Furthermore, men and women are not traditionally used to show off their affection in public. Kissing in public is frowned upon and it is usually not acceptable for female and male (before marriage) to stay together overnight unless there are other people in the group. However, most of the rules are being broken these days due to the exposure to western media. Some young Thais show signs of affection in public that are not so different from the western countries. Still, the older generations might criticize their behaviors.
Thai women are becoming more and more educated in the 21st century, many even have a better degree than men. Still, the Thai dating culture is difficult for westerners. The fact that Thailand has never been colonized by the western countries proves that Thai people have a very strong sense of culture and identity that reaches down to all levels of society. It is difficult for the majority of Thai women to act oppose to their tradition which has been ingrained in their mindset since a very early age.
In a nutshell, Thai women look for the same things as any other woman in the world. Every woman seeks romance, security, companionship and love. Understanding their culture is the first step before you make a decision to marry them. If you do, you will be with a woman who is willing to take good care of you for your entire life. But you have to take good care of her as well. Make her feel secure physically and personally. Then, you will have a wife for life! <3